How come they never show up when we’re crying?

bogdan

oh man… trebuia sa scrii de asta? m-am despartit de ea acum cinci ani, dupa doi ani in care am fost impreuna, on and off. acum e plecata din tara, casatorita, are un copil. cit am fost impreuna le-am facut pe toate: m-am umilit, am iertat-o ca m-a inselat, am palmuit-o, am plins dupa ea. nu regret nimic. si cred ca inca sint indragostit de ea…

irina

The worse you’re treated, the more you love them. And you cannot get them out of your system.
And loneliness eats you up very quietly.

monsoux

oh, common! whom have we met today? (like in “so many possibilities, so little time!”)

irina

yeah, go to a swimming pool, if you find a nice one, go take your friends, make a kite, play scrabble and have ice tea, select your clothes and see if you can donate….:)

Just get out, try something new with some people.. do something for someone else 😀 Visit your old relatives and find out the story of their lives.

meplusmyself

“There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” Nietzsche

Keep them away and they will always want to be close 🙂

meplusmyself

Saw last night “Frankie and Johnny”, third time! Michelle Pfeiffer & Al Pacino.
Nice scene with the condom on the first date, when two people are in love. Who brings it ? 🙂

Spoof

I wrote and deleted for about 10 times.
It’s not about you. It’s not about me.
It’s not about whether you’re fine or not.
It’s about stepping up, as a good friend of mine said “Hey! It’s just me, in a continuous state of evolution.” (i’m not shure if he qutoed someone else)
It’s all about taking the best out of the worse, taking the sun from behind the clouds.
It’s much easier said then done, but once you got the sun out of the clouds it smiles upon you, and proves you for the “N”th time, that the world lies at your feet, nothing happens without a reason, and you’re free. Free from much more than a lover, a relationship, a constraint. Free from yourself, from your own selfishness, from your sometimes dastardly actions.
You’re free, you’re fine, it’s just a new begining…

oedip

yeah, and he don’t bring you flowers anymore! life’s a bitch! get over it!

R!

In my sordid and outstretched experiences, you are precisely correct: we make our own endings. Once I arrived at this understanding, I decided not to be on my own. I decided to be happy.

hnu

hang in there… trece. nu repede, si probabil nu de tot. dar ajunge sa nu mai doara. nu foarte tare… 🙁 oricum, hang in there.

suminonA

no love … no pain… justa a clod frozen thing called heart…
incite cazuri el/ea este unul din motive ? ca dupa o cearta de exemplu ? si de si o/il vrei aproape … nu te poti abtine sa strecori un repros ? … si totul degenereaza…din nou… grrrr

runbaby

draga mea, foarte frumos si trist ai scris. shit happens and there’s no “how come?” about it. toata simpatia si gandurile bune si, take it from an old(er) bitch ;), cui pe cui se scoate :)…

runbaby

eu o foloseam in sensul de un alt affair (mai mult sau mai putin profund) abate atentia de la cel anterior…
dar poti oricand sa le treci strada pe toate cocoanele 70+ pe care le intalnesti, si-asa observ ca se incapataneaza sa bantuie pe bulivard la 38 de grade :)…

iti tin pumnii sa apara asap idila frivola din care tu iesi bine si uiti mintenas de bajetul asta care umbla creanga cu alta 🙂

Danonino

I’ve heard somebody talking about a “reset buton”… I haven’t found one yet on me, i suppose it hasn’t grown ’till now, I’m a late bloomer, me… But maybe others are luckier!

ela

nu e chiar asa .ei nu o sa apara niciodata atunci cand ai nevoie de ei tocmai pentru ca ti`o doresti atat de mult
ei o sa se intoarca exact atunci cand nu ii mai vrei iar asta e un fapt dovedit
in momentul in care nu o sa te mai gandesti si in care o sa-ti fie total indiferent atunci o sa se intoarca atunci o sa vina la tine si asta e..mai mult de un “boost” pentru orgoliul tau alta stare u o sa mai produca

:)) ai sa vezi

oedip

Dear Paula,

I think I did, and I’m pretty sure that, in a way, I still love a woman, and other women, for that matter, but not alike. And I can conceive peoples who try to hurt others for fun or, like in most of the cases, in my opinion, out of ignorance, because mainly they don’t know, or can’t predict, things. I don’t think that you never hurt somebody, and although I think you did, that don’t make you a bad person. My point here is that people are very different. And that makes you not so certain about things you have to do, or things they need, or ask for, without saying. Applied in a joke of Carlos Mencia this idea is like this: women all have a G spot … but in all the different places. Take the G spot as a system of basic requirement or a list of spoken or unspoken demands or something like this, the G spot is different and in a different place for everyone, and do not apply this exclusively to women, men are probably the same, and you’ll get the picture.
Someone who loves you will not intentionally hurt you, but if it will, I think is part of your experience with people and next time you’ll have a little bit more nose for such kind. We’re not here to be happy, this is a very strong idea of mine, but we can be… by “stealing” happiness. So, none of us deserve it but we can get it from time to time. Maybe the happiness will be within the old cliché of “small things”, maybe will be in sharing things, or I don’t know, wherever someone can get it… and most of all is not up to us to work for it, no, that ain’t gonna fly, but is in our power to BE ABLE to see it when it happens… IF it happens.
I seen a lot of women who can’t “express feelings” or worst, who ignore feelings, facts, things so important for them in life only because of ego or, and this is madness, THINGS… like money or… I don’t know, things. Maybe is a men thing to not express emotions for women, although I very much doubt it, but it occur to me that if you’re in guy “business” you’ll see flaws in men, but I’m in girls “business” so I see flaws in women. Is mainly a matter of perception, and stand point of view.
If you figured all the things you said by yourself and you can face the side effects of generalizing them I’m ok with that, but first you’ll have to ask yourself if you really achieve them personally and if it’s worth it to apply such rules to other indiscriminately.
Take care, bye.

Iulian

became a workaholic for a while and will help you a lot.that’s the perfect cure to lie yourself……at least for a while…

runbaby

good to hear thaT, of course 🙂

Paula

Oedip,

Sorry, I didn’t mean to generalize. I don’t think I did though.

I agree: people are different. I’d say men are different from women and in a way I very much like that. Also, I think men are different from other men. There are good men and better men in this world. So I guess I learned my hard lesson once and I know why I don’t feel like spending much of my time with a man who cares so much about his ego instead of “being together”. I never fully understood men but I know that many of them are very proud even where there is no reason to be. Much later I realized they’re proud especially when they’re weak. I am not going to guess if he loves me or not. That will make life too complicated. :)He needs to show me. As I do need to show him.

Anyway… every relationship is different because people have different values.

PS. Thank you for “ps”.

andressa

pai, nu merge .com, pentru ca e .ro …

pauldumitru

I think that somehow we love that feeling, or the pain caused by it…

did you ever think about telling the one you needed to come to you? did he say no? personally, in that case i couldn`t say no.

mihai78eugen

Da, vreau sa vorbesc si eu putin despre razbunare…
Demult, o veche prietena a suferit o dezamagire, care a afectat-o destul de rau…
A schimbat-o pur si simplu. Nu mai avea vechile ei obiceiuri, ci o lipsa totala de chef si parca simtea ca nu isi gaseste locul. Peste vreo doua luni, o intalnesc intamplator, inca in aceeasi situatie. Dupa o discutie scurta i-am sugerat sa se razbune cumva pe ex prietenul ei. Nestiind cum, m-a intrebat daca am vreo sugestie…si i-am spus un lucru simplu: gaseste-i punctul slab, loveste-l acolo unde il doare cel mai rau…
Si asa a facut…
Acum sa va zic si ce a facut: ex prietenul ei avea o pasiune exagerata pentru masina lui, ajunsese in vreo 2 cazuri sa o lase pe jos pe tipa doar pentru ca plouase si avea pantofii uzi. Hilara situatie, dar a trecut si peste asta. Imi permit sa o citez pe ea aici: “ar fi facut si sex cu masina daca s-ar fi putut asta…” 🙂
Intamplarea a facut ca el sa nu isi repare inca telecomanda de la chei pe care o stricase cazandu-i intr-un canal, astfel avand nevoie sa deschida usa in modul clasic. Intr-o seara, cu toate ca avea alarma la masina, tipa i-a pus 2 tuburi de superglue in incuietori si a asteptat dimineata sa il vada ce face. Bineinteles ca a plecat pe jos la serviciu si toata dupa-amiaza si-a petrecut-o intreband ce s-a intamplat, iar in cele din urma a dus masina pe o platforma la un service care a tinut-o acolo vreo 2 saptamani, probabil pentru ca i-au schimbat incuietorile (nu vreau sa ma gandesc, cum au facut de i-au deschis-o ca sa afle ce se intampla). In tot acest timp, el era cel mai nefericit om de pe strada aceea, de altfel asta o arata si fatza lui, tipa respectiva insa…in extaz continuu.
Nu a trecut mult timp si au inceput prin cunostinte comune sa ii ajunga la urechi fel de fel de amenintari pentru fapta cu superglue, pentru ca logic, ea era principala suspecta, insa el nu a putut dovedi nimic (ca nici amprente nu lasase)iar eu fiind autor moral al faptei inca stateam cu un morcov… Insa ca ea sa fie mai sadica, intr-o zi cand era cu noua lui prietena la o masa impreuna cu alte persoane, a mers la el si i-a zis urmatoarele: De ce nu ti-ai intrebat prietena ta blonda cum sa iesi din situatia cu superglue in incuietorile de la masina…ca probabil ai ales-o ca e mai desteapta (ton ironic), ce, ea nu stie, ca doar are cultura generala, ca superglue se dizolva in 5 minute cu diluant daca nu ai un solvent special?
(respectivul, mai sa faca infarct acolo…) :)…eu iti spuneam asta daca mai eram impreuna i-a zis ea plecand…(sper sa nu citeasca cel in cauza…)
E ceva timp de atunci…insa ea, chiar daca a mai schimbat ceva prieteni intre timp, nu a mai fost in situatia de a mai avea o asemenea cadere sa zic asa, insa si acum imi multumeste ca “i-am deschis ochii”, unele persoane nu merita nici macar o lacrima,dar sa iti irosesti nervii si energia sa ii joci o farsa care sa il usture… A ales totusi sa nu se mai razbune pe ei pentru ca oricum nu ar intelege adevaratul sens al razbunarii.
Nu stiu ce sa zic…insa daca ai ocazia de a te razbuna…macar o data, fa-o…ai sa vezi ca merita…insa atat, numai de data asta… 🙂