bad at being mean
I never know what to say or do. If I try to be mean, I usually end up being lame or weird.
First of all, when I’m supposed to be mean, when someone is asking for it, I just look puzzled. I’m taken by surprise every time. I’m like: “…are we doing this now?“, like that Seinfeld episode. That’s the best I can do. Look confused.
I’ve tried. I still try. But I can’t pass over the “why are you mean to me?” stage which basically ruins my whole “who’s the bitch now” routine.
15-20 years ago, I was the kid that cried a lot. The one that never fought back. The one that yelled “Mom!” when another kid would take my toys.
10 years ago I looked silly when trying to be mean. My best lines in a fight were: “Yeah? Well… you’re mean!” or “I hate you!” which kind of never intimidated or irritated anyone.
And now, it’s not that I can’t come up with better fighting lines, it’s just that I can’t bring myself to say them, I keep thinking: “But that’s so mean, I’m gonna hurt his/her feelings…“. So I have a funny look on my face (“What do I do now?! Damn, I hate these situations!!“) and sometimes say: “Why I oughtta…” or “I don’t know if I can ever forgive you“.
Or, looking angry, I say something incredibly weird like: “You wouldn’t even be able to take care of a… stuffed animal!! ”
I make people laugh when I try to be mean, I’m that lame. I’m telling you: I’m really, really bad at this. Arrgh…
36 comments
36 Comments so far
Leave a reply
Heh, that cant be an art. Nar can you brag or be satisfied that you’re good at being ‘mean’.
And “i hate you” is childish. Too childish*
And thats cute, not mean. I might smile though, not really laugh.
Anyway, i found that theres nothing worse than a ugly look, so if someday you find yourself desperated enough (and, eventually, in front of a mirror) you can give that a try.
I bet you’d laugh.
Nice a post in english…I know what you mean. And I think you shouldn’t be good at being mean, because there are a lot of mean people in the world and only a few good people. When someone tries to pick a fight with me I just ignore him/her or if they really push my buttons i tell them something with a sarcastic tone. I really like your style, and the way you look at things.
immortal,
i think that lamer than “i hate you” would be “why can’t we just get along?” but i never say it out loud.
Hei I bet your cute and that’s why you can’t get mean, is this the case?
I am not at liberty to say.
Are you being modest? or this is just a blog rule, that you can’t say stuff about you? Anyway…don’t try to be mean, nobody likes a girl that’s mean.
PS I really enjoy your blog I added you to my blogroll, you made a fan
If that’s a rule, I broke it a long time ago.
I tell my secrets here. But it’s one thing to say what I want and when I want about me, and another to answer questions about me. I feel awkward in the latter situation…
Maybe you can’t be mean when you want to. I’m sure you are mean sometimes without trying so hard.
Well you talk about yourself right? So it’s about time people ask about yourself. maybe that was a bit to personal, about your appearance and I apologize if that was the case. I was juts trying to bust a myth, cute girls get away with anything (because you said people laugh if you try to be bitchy, or was it a disrespectful laugh?)
if you havent been mean yet, it means you havent been frustrated enough for it to come naturally. thats a good thing, i would focus on that. why push for something that is only bad energy?
make peace with the natural you. it is generally more appreciated anyway.
Alina,
I’m sure I have hurt people’s feelings in my life, but not intentionally. When I want to hurt people, “i hate you” is my best shot.
Andrei,
if you read this blog you’ll find out almost everything about me. You’ll see pictures, too.
Am auzit o povestioara despre tine in care povestitorul iti facuse ceva foarte rautacios si reactia ta a fost: eu pe tine te urasc! Si eu am ras la povestioara aia, desi ma gandeam cu simpatie la tine si am sfarsit prin a spune “ce uraaat!” trebuie sa-ti mai exersezi skillurile de scorpie.
Try to be ironic, works every time if you really want to be mean, but like timidus essensis said, you will be more appreciated if you will control your anger.
I can only subscribe with @timidus. And thats not about being ‘lame’. You can fight or you can refuse to fight – why would any of those two be ‘lame’?
By one hand, if you cant (ever) be ‘mean’, you must be…well, oughta…naive?! No matter if there’s PR in it or not (from what i’ve read, i’ll say it isnt, but thats way too cute
). Yeah, and irony its a hell of a weapon, but you must have the looks. Laughters and irony wont get along.
On the other side… you actually said it. Winning a fight or simply closing a mouth can do wonders for your ego. And, as long as you wont get that daily, it should only make you stronger.
I said.
(no edit fo’ me?!
)
PS: do you have a trademark on “i hate you”? I think i started to link it, though i wonder if i’d ever get to use it
Explain please why the heck do you want to be mean in the first place? Why oh why?
and the point is?
oh, look at me, I am so good, little miss perfect, boo hoo:)
lol
Incercad sa aflu ce vrea Andressa sa spuna cu ‘mean’ am gasit un site mult mai haios decat acest boring post:
http://www.meanmug.org/
BTW, Andressa, n-o lua ca pe ceva personal, poate nu sunt eu acum in starea necesara intelegerii subtilitatilor limbii engleze.
I kinda find it weird that you say that you can’t be bad…I was thinking all day and I can’t figure it out…is it possible?
Of course I can be mean, I’m just really bad at it, as I said. I can say mean thins to myself, but when it comes to expressing my anger… I suck.
onionsoup,
the point is that blogging sparkles ’cause you can write whatever you want without caring what others may think.
Touche, u can practice with people on the blog if you want, you can come to my blog to and call people stupid
. You should practice practice practice
PS de ce nu scrii mai multe articole pe zi? Ii pacat ca ii interesant
’cause i’m busy…
who ever said you need to be good at being good? some are, some just aren’t. at least, you know you’re not so you don’t have to try anymore
VA RUGAM SA ACCESATI URMATOAREA ADRESA:
http://moldoveanumihai.blogspot.com/
Veti regasi povestea socanta a unui om NEVINOVAT, condamnat totusi la 25 de ani inchisoare.
Numele lui este MOLDOVEANU MIHAI si se afla in prezent in Penitenciarul de Maxima Siguranta Rahova. A executat deja 12 ani din pedeapsa.
Credeti ca povestea lui se mai poate face auzita?
Pentru orice idée, informatie, gand bun sau sugestie cu privire la modalitatea in care o persoana nevinovata, condamnata definitiv, ar mai putea fi pusa in libertate, va rugam sa il contactati, fie personal, la Pnt. Rahova, Sos. Alexandriei nr. 154, sector 5, Bucuresti, fie la urmatoarea adresa de e-mail: moldoveanu_libertate@yahoo.com.
*good at being mean.
it nice.. i like
It’s more frustrating for me, because I can be mean to people who don’t “deserve” it, and I am too good at that
But I have a hard time making my anger heard by the ones who actually did hurt me.
I try, and then they ask me: “Are you really mad now?” And I go soft and say: “No, it’s ok.” And bite my tongue one more time.
The idea with the angry look is a good one, if you can’t do it in words
Oh, shut up and stop bitching. You’re annoying at best, a very looong way from being mean.
You’re a disgrace to all women who work very hard to make a man’s life a living hell every day. Oh, sorry, I forgot you were so pathetically hopeless that you don’t even have a man of your own.
How hard is it to find one? I mean, are you even trying? Cause men are looking smart, intelligent and especially attractive women… and you are so not any of the above.
…
That was the beginning of being mean
ce e cu limba engleza?…care e treaba.
de ce nu scriem in romana
Txirii, care ii iritatia ta? Ca a mea tine de stupizenia oamenilor, a ta care o fi?
mai eu zic sa tinem isonu, daca ea vrut sa scrie in engleza m-am gandit sa raspund in engleza, daca stiu vorbi limba. And to be on topic, let’s change the topic
It’s incredible how pain can make you be mean sometimes. Then you snap yourself out of it but there is no telling when you do it again, or sometimes you feel you can’t control yourself.
Not an excuse but so is life sometimes. Also, ‘not hurting intentionally’ must be one of the lamest around
But i am sure you know that as well!
Lua, true. It is lame. But you know what I mean. The meanest things I’ve ever said were not told out of anger but out of stupidity.
I do know what you mean.
But i meant something beyond it. The things we say and do because we feel we are entitled to, because they make all the sense to us.
It can come out of anger. It can come out of placated anger. It can come out of a clear mindset. It makes sense to someone.
The problem is that it doesn’t always have to make sense to the person who is listening/ on the receiving end.
Do you know what i mean?
oh, how cute…